Disability Discrimination and Me.
I’ve seen posts circulating social media recently about how discrimination has affected people and their lives, and also about how people should be free to be themselves without the worry of being mocked, judged or bullied.
Being disabled, I’ve been discriminated against a few times in my life. But it’s not just in the workplace or at a job interview, it was in my personal life, too. It was from high school crushes and so-called friends. It was random people in the street. I’ve had guys say they wouldn’t date me because I’m a “cripple”; me having a stump was repulsive to them and a total turn off. I’ve had friends say they don’t want me to go swimming with them in case my stump scares their younger sibling. I’ve had another friend say I can’t go for a bike ride with them because I’d be too slow. Those are just a couple of examples. Kids can be cruel, too. Growing up, I had my fair share of comments from kids making nasty remarks about the way I walk and even about the way I talk (I’ve scarring from having tubes down my throat as I was a prem baby, born 13 weeks early so my voice is now husky and quiet). And I’m not going to lie, it really affected me! I often worry what people will think when I tell them I’m disabled. Every time I got into a relationship with a new guy I’d brace myself when telling them about my disabilities (I’m also blind in one eye) in case of rejection. It can be scary. You don’t know what their reaction is going to be. Will they accept you for who you are or run for the hills?
Other than a few bad apples, I’ve been fairly lucky in my life to have surrounded myself with very caring and supportive friends and family who love me for me. We’ve certainly had some laughs down the road in regards to my prosthetic leg and funny mishaps. I will never live down the toe socks episode, that’s for sure! Or there was the time my sister and I went down the slide as kids. She was in front of me and for some reason held on to my prosthetic leg. As we were sliding down she accidentally pulled it off and it flew a few feet on to the wood chip ground. Suffice to say there were a few shocked faces! And that’s just a couple out of many stories for you haha. I’ve never taken myself seriously. Why have a chip on your shoulder and be angry at the world when you can find the funny? Laugh, love and live life to the best of your ability. There’s no point being angry and bitter all the time; it’s faaar too exhausting!
I went on to have a career in business administration where I was with the same company for 12 years before I left to start a family. I have since worked in retail over the Christmas period for the past few years. Marks and Spencer were incredibly understanding of my disability and were so lovely to work for. Sadly, I couldn’t work for them last Christmas because I’d had my second baby so wasn’t ready to return to work yet.
Now that I have a little family of my own, I hope to bring them up with the same outlook on life. I will always teach them to be whoever the heck they want to be, do whatever job they want to do, and love whoever they want to love. They’ll get no judgement from me, just my love and support.
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Wow, ok, so it’s occurred to me that I haven’t let the bloggersphere know that I’m pregnant again with our second little girl! I blame it on the baby brain! Although I have announced it on social media so if you follow me over there then you may already know!
Willow is incredibly excited to be a big sister! I’ve no doubt she’ll be wanting to help out as much as she possibly can. She’s turning 4 this month, can you believe it? I don’t even know where the time has gone! She’s turning in to this beautiful and bright little girl right in front of our eyes! She’s doing incredibly well at nursery and we’re so proud of her!
Today I thought I’d share with you some bump pics! I’m 23 weeks as of yesterday! I’m shocked at how fast this pregnancy is going! I’m so excited to meet baby Mia; I just wish she was here already.
For so long we were adamant that we weren’t having any more babies. My first pregnancy was an emotional rollercoaster with an awful lot of anxiety and I struggled physically, too, with being an amputee on top of the usual difficulties you get with being pregnant (ugh SPD anyone?). I didn’t enjoy being pregnant at all and I felt so guilty about that. I just wanted Willow to be brought to us by a stork or something haha.
When labour day approached I was perfectly fine and excited right up until the point it was time to go to the hospital. I get severe anxiety when it comes to hospitals and operations, so for me it was a pretty traumatic experience, especially as I had to be taken to a second hospital that was better equipped to deliver baby Willow by emergency c-section (I couldn’t get any further than 3cm dilated, my blood pressure was insanely high, Willow’s heart beat incredibly low, and they discovered I had an infection -sepsis). I’m not afraid to admit I was a mess and panicking because I didn’t know what the hell was going on. This time I’m having an elected C-section in the hopes I’ll feel calmer and more prepared about what’s to come. Hmmm I’ll let you know how that one goes lol. But they say it’s more relaxed when you have an elected C-section so fingers crossed. I’ll have a chat with them too about my anxiety and hopefully I can get a hold on that and squish it down so that I can actually enjoy the experience this time. 😊💜
Whenever I’d get asked if I’d wanted any more kids and I said no, explaining my reasons, my friends would always tell me no two pregnancies are the same. So far, they were right! My second pregnancy has been a joy so far – apart from the morning sickness in the first trimester. Although even that was a lot more smooth running than my first pregnancy! Hopefully things will continue to go well!
This time we’ll be doing some things a little differently. When I had Willow I was too shy to breastfeed, always worrying about other people’s feelings. This time I want to give it a go. I just have this overwhelming feeling to breastfeed. Hopefully I can do it for as long as baby Mia needs it. Any advice you have is welcome!
We’re also going to be using re-usable/cloth nappies! It’s shocking how many nappies get thrown away each week and put into landfill! I just can’t bring myself to add to it. If anyone has any recommendations on which cloth nappies to buy then please feel free to comment! I’d love to hear from you.
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The past couple of weeks have been kind of emotional. I have now handed my notice in at work and shall officially be leaving on the 7th August! Why you ask? Well, it’s pretty awesome really … My boyfriend has asked me to move in with him! Yay! Eek! It’s such a big step and not just because I’m simply moving into another house in town, ohhhh no. Nope. It’s because I shall be moving away to “sunny” Pembrokeshire, Wales and leaving my friends and family behind in Lincolnshire, England. It’s gonna be real tough leaving them and, let me tell you, I have shed my fair share of tears already just thinking about it! BUT I need to follow my heart. – That sounds sooo corny but it’s true. This is why I’ve been so emotional. Lord knows what I’ll be like on moving day! It is the right thing to do, though. I love my boyfriend and I love Wales – Pembrokeshire is so beautiful! On the week of my move, my boyfriend will be spending the week with me, helping me pack (just the essentials for now as we’ll be living at his parents for a while first) and then he’ll help me haul everything on to the train to my new home! I’m excited and nervous all at the same time! I don’t have a job in Wales yet but I’ve been job hunting everyday and am anxiously waiting to hear back from a couple at the mo so fingers crossed I can secure a job BEFORE I actually move down there.
So, there you go, that’s my big life changing news! Have any of you guys done the same and moved away to be with the one you love?